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The Thought Came to Me Recently

The thought came to me recently and it was this. Why do parents pull their children out of public schools and place them in private schools? Also, why are these students from public schools so far behind the private school curricula? I will get into the second question another time.

In considering the main question, why do parents pull their children out and place them in private schools? From what I have seen in 40 years of teaching in private schools, the number one factor seems to be that teachers are mistreating their child. Of course, children have a slanted perspective of how one is supposed to be treated. Parents will believe their children, which is only natural. However, parents should ask for a conference with the teacher to bring things into a manageable perspective. It is always wise for the child to be at this conference also because more than likely the child will admit to their own misgivings.

Then, on the other hand there is mistreatment from teachers from time to time. We hear on the communication air waves, where teachers have sexually assaulted students. Once this teacher is apprehended they are dealt with by the law enforcement system.

Another factor is that parents think that private schools are reform schools. Parents are not fully aware of the fact that if they hide the information about behavioral problems, teachers WILL find out. Teachers might not see that there is a problem until the “honeymoon” time is over and that is when unmanageable behavior sets in. All of the training in the world, as far as psychology, sociology, and other such courses go, do not prepare teachers for what can actually happen in the classroom. The challenges from this unruly behavior will be discussed at another writing.

In closing, I will relate to you, what happened to one of my students three years ago. She was in Pickens County public schools. She was a smart student with impeccable behavior. One day she went to the restroom. There was an older student, who was in the fifth grade. After this girl came out of the stall, the fifth grade girl sexually assaulted this younger girl. To make a lengthy story short, the fifth grader presented a strong case for herself, as she and her parents met with the school authorities. The bottom line is this: the board believed the fifth grader, who said she did no such thing. The younger girl was punished for lying. At that point they call me and we enrolled her and she has been with our school ever since.

Janie Miller Ferrell